If a father is going to deal successfully with a hostile mother, he must put aside his ego. Most hostile mothers are hostile because they know they have the weight of the Texas child welfare establishment on their side. They also know that very few men are going to mount a legal challenge to their supremacy. They, therefore, can afford to go ‘toe to toe’ with the father of their children. What men must do is to check their ego and understand that the end-game for them is remain an active presence in the life of that child. If you are in jail or living under a restraining order, it becomes almost impossible to achieve that goal.

Selflessness

"The very act of separation and divorce, aside from any accompanying behavior or words, itself sends a myriad of terrible messages to children. It says that parents can put their own wishes above the welfare of their children. This is obviously a bad example, which the children can then carry on to their own families. But a perhaps worse effect is to destroy parental authority. No parent who has put himself or herself before their child in such a basic way has any moral authority to instruct, correct, or discipline a child. How can parents instill lessons of selflessness in children when their own actions demonstrate precisely the opposite?"

-Stephen Baskerville

Advocate!

Unmarried and divorced fathers who have contentious relationships with the mother of their child(ren) should begin to see themselves as advocates for the child. Their eyes are watching you!

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Decision delayed

The Respondent was late arriving for the hearing. A continuance was granted. A motion for continuance was granted. Bummer! I was ready!

Stand up for Your Rights!

On Tuesday, April 10, 2012 I am presenting my case before a family court magistrate regarding my rights as father of my 4 year-old son. I stand for the dignity of all of God's people!